Have you ever wondered why God waited so long to bring you the thing you love the most, that makes you most happy, that fulfills you the most? Have you ever thought to yourself... Why did i wait so long? Why did i waste all this time? What would it be if I would have started sooner?
I recently got married to what everyone in my world knows is the greatest love of my life.
I'm 37, he is 40 and we have known each other for the last 6+ years. We met thru a mutual friend and she was my room mate in 2012 when they started working together. She talked to me about him from day 1 and also to him about me. I was single and he was recently single. That moment in my life is a huge pivotal moment. That point in time was the turning point to MANY MANY things... at that point in my life, full transparency: was the lowest point in my adult life. In 2011, I was making a lot of bad decisions. Within a weeks time (at this point) I was broken up from a serious relationship, laid off for the 2nd time in that year, and had my dad's memorial. I was devastated and had no idea what was going to happen to my future. I was broken. I was not a good parent. I did everything I could to hold it together during this time but it goes without saying... I was not living my best life. Jeff was getting divorced from someone he had been with for 10+ years. He was also not living his best life during this time as he tried to adjust to being single for the first time in a long time.
About a year later, I met someone (who is not in my life now), continued to make decisions that were not my best and found myself pregnant with my now 5 year old and married against all advice. I had also, before I started seeing this person, found a new church home that I was enjoying. Through going into this phase of my life, it forced me to get myself right. Get my head into a good space. Through going thru the hell that would be those three years, I learned who I really was. I did leaps and bounds to get myself into a healthy place in my life. I am not sure I would have done this work if I wouldn't have gotten pregnant. It took years of therapy and prayer for me to not ask God repeatedly "why?" It took years for me to understand this all had purpose and for me to be 'OK' with where I was and what happened to us. It took years for me to accept the responsibility for what I got my family and myself into and ask my kids for forgiveness.
This brings me to the topic of the hour: did I "waste" all this time? Was this horrible time in my life a waste? Or did it just prepare me for what was to come?
Would my now husband, Jeff, and I be ready for each other if we wouldn't have gone through the collective hell we experienced?
So I ask you now... was all this time wasted? Was this time wasted or was this time preparing? I also believe that as hard as i fought for that time then is one of the main reasons why my husband trusts me now. Because he knows how much I learned and who i really was because of how much I tried and how i conducted myself then.
God doesn't waste. That is the biggest thing I learned though everything I've been thru in my life. God doesn't waste. God doesn't make mistakes.
I know not everyone believes in God or a God or a higher being... so translate that for what applies to you... but I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I also firmly believe that all things we go thru that push us to grow and push us to make ourselves better for a reason, too.
Without the trials we experience, do we still grow, do we still learn? I thank God for the trials and the tribulations. I am so thankful - not for the hard times but for what they bring. I am thankful for making the decisions to learn and grow so I could be ready for the blessings I have now and for my life I have today.
I'm currently going thru a rough spot in another area of my life. I'm in a spot now where I am ready for a new challenge at work. Do I get angry for the challenges I'm experiencing professionally? No. I am grateful for the trials and the hard times because I know I'm being pruned and readied for what lies ahead. I grateful for the storm and I definitely don't consider this time wasted.
I recently got married to what everyone in my world knows is the greatest love of my life.
I'm 37, he is 40 and we have known each other for the last 6+ years. We met thru a mutual friend and she was my room mate in 2012 when they started working together. She talked to me about him from day 1 and also to him about me. I was single and he was recently single. That moment in my life is a huge pivotal moment. That point in time was the turning point to MANY MANY things... at that point in my life, full transparency: was the lowest point in my adult life. In 2011, I was making a lot of bad decisions. Within a weeks time (at this point) I was broken up from a serious relationship, laid off for the 2nd time in that year, and had my dad's memorial. I was devastated and had no idea what was going to happen to my future. I was broken. I was not a good parent. I did everything I could to hold it together during this time but it goes without saying... I was not living my best life. Jeff was getting divorced from someone he had been with for 10+ years. He was also not living his best life during this time as he tried to adjust to being single for the first time in a long time.
About a year later, I met someone (who is not in my life now), continued to make decisions that were not my best and found myself pregnant with my now 5 year old and married against all advice. I had also, before I started seeing this person, found a new church home that I was enjoying. Through going into this phase of my life, it forced me to get myself right. Get my head into a good space. Through going thru the hell that would be those three years, I learned who I really was. I did leaps and bounds to get myself into a healthy place in my life. I am not sure I would have done this work if I wouldn't have gotten pregnant. It took years of therapy and prayer for me to not ask God repeatedly "why?" It took years for me to understand this all had purpose and for me to be 'OK' with where I was and what happened to us. It took years for me to accept the responsibility for what I got my family and myself into and ask my kids for forgiveness.
This brings me to the topic of the hour: did I "waste" all this time? Was this horrible time in my life a waste? Or did it just prepare me for what was to come?
Would my now husband, Jeff, and I be ready for each other if we wouldn't have gone through the collective hell we experienced?
So I ask you now... was all this time wasted? Was this time wasted or was this time preparing? I also believe that as hard as i fought for that time then is one of the main reasons why my husband trusts me now. Because he knows how much I learned and who i really was because of how much I tried and how i conducted myself then.
God doesn't waste. That is the biggest thing I learned though everything I've been thru in my life. God doesn't waste. God doesn't make mistakes.
I know not everyone believes in God or a God or a higher being... so translate that for what applies to you... but I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I also firmly believe that all things we go thru that push us to grow and push us to make ourselves better for a reason, too.
Without the trials we experience, do we still grow, do we still learn? I thank God for the trials and the tribulations. I am so thankful - not for the hard times but for what they bring. I am thankful for making the decisions to learn and grow so I could be ready for the blessings I have now and for my life I have today.
I'm currently going thru a rough spot in another area of my life. I'm in a spot now where I am ready for a new challenge at work. Do I get angry for the challenges I'm experiencing professionally? No. I am grateful for the trials and the hard times because I know I'm being pruned and readied for what lies ahead. I grateful for the storm and I definitely don't consider this time wasted.
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